Reflection Over The Weekend

During this Weekend I get chatted and posted that really hang me out! Makes me think all over again about everything.

Does Words Really Can Hurt or Heal?

“Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” <=== the right is words can kills! Think again!? When You said something about someone, are those words came down from inside. The way we speak to others is really important. How many times did I chant that at someone trying to say something hurtful to me when I was child? And I wanted it to be true, so I fought done the tears and the hurt and repeated again.

The problem was and is that words do hurt. It doesn’t matter what age you are, we all have weaknesses and when someone tries to use that while taunting and teasing, it does hurt. And words that hurt can be sneaky, they don’t just hurt at that moment, but they can stick around in a person’s subconscious and hurt later too.

Mean words hurt us as adults, but we have the experience and knowledge to push them aside and let them go. Children, on the other hand, do not. That is the true purpose of this article, to bring attention to the fact that as adults we need to be more vigilant in what we say to young children. And I do not mean that we, as adults, need to coddle our children. Just take care.

At a very young age, when a child hears “you are a bad boy” they learn that they are bad, or worthless – not worthy of love or praise. This is the beginning of low self-esteem. It encourages the belief that they are bad and cannot do anything good. Telling a child that what they did was bad is a better way to phrase “you are a bad boy”. They need to learn that the action was bad and it is possible to correct the action.

Some words teach children to fear adults rather than respect them. Children do need to learn that there are consequences to their actions. But not by hearing things like, “if you don’t stop, I am going to knock you in the head.” That encourages the belief that violence solves problems. It also makes fear of an adult, instead of love or respect of an adult, the learning tool that encourages their behavior.

The way we speak to children is the first lesson in how they should speak to others. This is another reason to watch what you say to children and others around children. Instead of teaching them phrases they shouldn’t say, teach them what they should say. We do this by example – by not saying things that we wouldn’t want our children saying. When they learn inappropriate language, they then need to unlearn the inappropriate language. Children have enough to struggle with growing up, let’s not throw more obstacles in their path by teaching them hurtful words.

What You Don't Know - Doesn't Mean it Doesn't Exist

If you can not see something that does not mean it does not exist. This is the common belief in which people deny the existence of angels, spirit guides, and other unseen helpers. If you have encountered such unseen helpers, you know that they exist, albeit you can not 'prove it.'

A good question to ask the doubting Thomas, "How do you know oxygen exists?" You can not see it or touch it. Yet, you can feel its presence in the wind. We believe the wind exists because we can feel it on our skin and hear it moving through the tree leaves or rushing past a moving object, such as a car. There are things all around and within us that we do not see, yet we know they are there and are as real as the sun, moon and stars.

What we believe and do not believe, see or do not see is merely the perception we consciously decide to accept/ believe. Remember the world was once believed to be flat. What happened to that belief?

Once upon a time a brave group of people set sail to discover the truth of the matter. It is told that the Native Americans could not see Columbus's ships anchored off shore, because they did not know what a ship looked like, therefore, the ships blended into the ocean waves and mist. It was only after the Natives met the 'pale faces' that they learned to distinguish the ships near-by.

Like the Native Americans, if we allow ourselves to see what we cannot see, because we are open and willing to see, anyone can tune into the invisible realms and begin to connect to the spirit world.

Humans began to disconnect from their spiritual awareness during the period in Mesopotamia before Noah built the arc. And we have continued to distrust what we can not see as a matter of conscious choice. If you have not connected with the spirit world, all you need to do is to resolve to open your mind to its existence, and let yourself know.

One easy exercise is to close your eyes in meditation and visualize yourself accepting any concept that enters into the conscious mind. You can then engage in allowing the unseen through in ways that were invisible to you before.

Whatever you choose, cultivating a relationship with the spirit world is awesome beyond words.

First Published at www.qassia.com

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, Author, "101 Great Ways To Improve Your Life." Dr. Dorothy has the unique gift of connecting people with a broad range of profound principles that resonate in the deepest part of their being. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one's daily thoughts and feelings. http://www.drdorothy.net

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Mindful Eating

A mindful eater is nonjudgmental, compassionate and above all aware of the taste, texture and process of eating. Being mindful means knowing exactly how your body feels at all times. You are so closely in touch with what is going on inside that you know the exact moment you are satisfied rather than stuffed or starving by learning the why, what, when and how you eat. - Susan Albers

What is Mindful Eating?
Mindfulness, and more specifically mindful eating, isn't a new concept. In fact, it is centuries old and based on the Eastern concept of mindfulness or “pure awareness.” If you are eating mindfully, you are aware and attentive to all dimensions of eating. It includes mindfulness of the mind, body, thoughts and feelings.

Mindful Eating: is about being conscious of why you are eating. Are you hungry? Are you tired? Are you bored? There is no menu or recipes to follow. It's about learning HOW and WHY you eat, and less about WHAT you eat. When you are so closely in touch with what is going on inside, you know the exact moment you are satisfied rather than stuffed or starving. To understand the why, what, when and how we eat, we have to be compassionate and nonjudgmental. This allows us to take a closer look at our behavior.

Seven Habits of the Mindful Eater : Aware, Accepting, Nonjudgmental, Compassionate, In-the-Moment, Able to Let-it-Go, Observant

The Four Foundations of Eating Mindfully
MINDFULNESS of the MIND on a scale of 1-10, how aware am I at this moment? Am I tasting every bite or am I mindlessly chomping away? Observe the taste, texture, smell, and sound of food. This helps you to pay attention to what you are doing. Identify whether you are mindlessly snacking or in touch with every single bite.

MINDFULNESS of the BODY. Listen to your body. Do I pay attention when it says stop? Or, do I ignore my body's feedback. Identify how your body tells you it's hungry and full. Pay attention to hunger pains, a rumbling stomach, your energy level, movement, body posture and muscle tension. If you don't respond, your body could stop giving you important information about how it is doing. Learn to know the difference between emotional hunger (stress eating) and physical hunger.

MINDFULNESS of FEELINGS is noticing feelings that start and stop eating. Anxiety, guilt, stress, comfort, boredom and pleasure are just a few. It's important to get in touch with your emotions. If you don't get a handle on your feelings, Sometimes, coping with your feelings is more important that changing the type of foods you eat.

MINDFULNESS of THOUGHTS. Be mindful of your thoughts. Observe “should” and “should not” thoughts, critical thoughts (I'm so fat!), food rules, "good" and "bad" food categories. Notice how positive and negative thoughts sway your behavior. A thought is just a thought, you don't have to respond to it.
Susan Albers © 2004

Mindful Eating Acceptance Affirmations
Mind
* I accept that my eating and weight concerns are creating emotional distress, discomfort, and suffering in my life.
* I choose to accept my body and weight as they are at this moment. Committing to accept myself is a choice only I can make.

Body
* I accept that my genetic inheritance strongly influences my body shape and weight.
* I accept how important it is for me to eat mindfully in order to live a healthy life.

Thoughts
* To accept my body and weight does not mean that I am judging them to be perfect
* Acceptance only comes from within myself. I don’t seek it from the outside.

Feelings
* I accept that my worth is not reflected by my weight and shape, but, rather, my worth is determined by who I am as a whole person.
* Acceptance includes rejecting the cultural and social messages I receive about weight.

Try a classic eating mindful exercise:
Among many things, mindful eating includes feeling the saltiness of each potato chip on your fingers as you pick it up, and noting the taste of the salt when you put the chip on your tongue. It’s being aware of and listening to the loud crunch of each bite, and the noise the chewing makes in your head. As you eat the chips, you take note of the rough texture against your tongue, and the pressure of your teeth grinding together.

When you are watchful, you notice how your stomach expands and feels fuller. You experience each bite from start to finish by slowing down every aspect of the eating process to be fully aware of each movement, swallow, aroma and feeling derived from eating.

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Discover the Hidden Power of Positive Affirmations

Using positive affirmations can change your life for the better. In this article, we'll explore the reasons behind the life-changing power of affirmations, and some techniques to supercharge your affirmations, while shortening the length of time it takes to get them to begin producing results. When you've finished reading, you'll have a firm grasp on the importance of reprogramming your subconscious mind for success, and be able to to it efficiently.

Your conscious mind, the voice that you hear reading the words of this article, is like a gatekeeper. It operates on the beliefs that your unconscious mind is programmed with, and will only allow information that aligns with those beliefs. Repeatedly hammering the conscious mind with affirmations will effectively break down the barriers, and allow the new programming to be imbedded into the unconscious mind. The old-fashioned methods of repeating your affirmations endlessly over a long period of time worked, and worked well. But we live in an instant gratification, microwave society, and we expect results NOW!

Most people who haven't gotten results from repeating positive affirmations are simply not repeating them often enough, or for a long enough time to get past the conscious mind, the gatekeeper that says "say it all you want, it ain't true". These people are not failures, they simply tired of the same repetitive task. Everyone has a limit to the amount of times they can repeat a task before it bores them. What they need is a method of speeding up the process.

There are several methods to shorten the time between the first repetition of the positive affirmation, and the actual results. Anything you can do to quiet the critical conscious mind long enough to slip the affirmations past it is helpful. Many people use EFT, or the Emotional Freedom Techniques, with much success. Some people use a combination of techniques. Subliminal programming is by far the quickest, easiest, and least time consuming method.

With subliminal programming, your positive affirmations, or "Power Phrases" are flashed across a screen in nanosecond displays, so that your conscious mind can't detect them. However, your subconscious mind hears them loud and clear! Many people report results after the first few sessions with a subliminal program

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