Reflection Over The Weekend

During this Weekend I get chatted and posted that really hang me out! Makes me think all over again about everything.

Does Words Really Can Hurt or Heal?

“Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” <=== the right is words can kills! Think again!? When You said something about someone, are those words came down from inside. The way we speak to others is really important. How many times did I chant that at someone trying to say something hurtful to me when I was child? And I wanted it to be true, so I fought done the tears and the hurt and repeated again.

The problem was and is that words do hurt. It doesn’t matter what age you are, we all have weaknesses and when someone tries to use that while taunting and teasing, it does hurt. And words that hurt can be sneaky, they don’t just hurt at that moment, but they can stick around in a person’s subconscious and hurt later too.

Mean words hurt us as adults, but we have the experience and knowledge to push them aside and let them go. Children, on the other hand, do not. That is the true purpose of this article, to bring attention to the fact that as adults we need to be more vigilant in what we say to young children. And I do not mean that we, as adults, need to coddle our children. Just take care.

At a very young age, when a child hears “you are a bad boy” they learn that they are bad, or worthless – not worthy of love or praise. This is the beginning of low self-esteem. It encourages the belief that they are bad and cannot do anything good. Telling a child that what they did was bad is a better way to phrase “you are a bad boy”. They need to learn that the action was bad and it is possible to correct the action.

Some words teach children to fear adults rather than respect them. Children do need to learn that there are consequences to their actions. But not by hearing things like, “if you don’t stop, I am going to knock you in the head.” That encourages the belief that violence solves problems. It also makes fear of an adult, instead of love or respect of an adult, the learning tool that encourages their behavior.

The way we speak to children is the first lesson in how they should speak to others. This is another reason to watch what you say to children and others around children. Instead of teaching them phrases they shouldn’t say, teach them what they should say. We do this by example – by not saying things that we wouldn’t want our children saying. When they learn inappropriate language, they then need to unlearn the inappropriate language. Children have enough to struggle with growing up, let’s not throw more obstacles in their path by teaching them hurtful words.